Granted, I have very little experience here, but if you are uncomfortable talking to said Dom about the fact that you are nervous, then how can you be ready to meet in person, play the first time and stay overnight?

There is a wise woman on this board, denuseri, who says, safety first, kinky second. I urge you to seek out and read her posts.

I actually brought this question up in chat the other day. I only have vanilla friends, so I didn't quite know how to manage a meet up safely if I was so inclined. The chatters gave me good advice. You don't need to tell your friends you are meeting up with a Dom or a kinky friend - just say you are going on a blind date (match.com or something) and want some backup just in case. It seems like a normal request. I don't think my friends would think it wierd if I said something like that...

But, going back to my first point, bdsm is all about communication. If you can't talk to this person about your safety concerns, then that speaks volumes.

Be safe and take care.