i do have a question, and i suck at the quotie thing so excuse me for that...

and i am also only living with my Master since september all though we have been together for quite a while, we do have kids and a mentally retarded brother to care for and jobs outside the home, but i have never been with anyone in a bdsm context outside of him in r/l or o/l....and i don't care what i am called by anyone but Him...so i am not posting as a slave/submissive/pet just as me.

i am for one grateful for this posting as i am one of the people who came to the internet seeking answers and others having my experience and ask all the "what am i?" questions and have spent more time then i care to admit reading all of the threads here looking for answers to define myself. i had believed by many of the posts by slaves that there began a point where i no longer had a choice in anything if i became or am a slave. so at the risk of annoying some, it does matter to say all this about consent. i am fortunate to have a kind and loving Master who does care for me deeply and wants me to let him know if something isn't good for me whether it be during play or in the house with all our kids, my brother whatever. but, what if he didn't? what if He flat out didn't care and was causing real harm? if i identified myself a slave does that mean i suck it up? i just was hoping that people would look at a broader picture where abusive people are there as are some of us the type who attract them and feel trapped even in the vanilla never mind within the context of slavery.

i have no idea as i posted in my earlier response to this thread what to call myself, but i stopped caring and being concerned about my specific title and what it means, but its not bad to clarify all this from a 3d stand point because its hard to be in danger from someone you can't be bound infront of to the same degree...i am sorry but unless someone can actually be there to kill you i am not sure how it is the same thing. but as i have said i have no experience with giving my life over to the care of another in that fashion to know what that works out to be like.

i hope i haven't offended anyone at all, i just have read so many posts by abused people here who only realized after they were in an abusive relationship.