Quote denuseri: "Its not being tied up or slapped around that matters...its that one has actually put oneself at the anothers total and complete mercy that matters."

I do not live with my Master (though I'm working on the whole immigration thing, woo!). But let's say I have this friend, let's call her "shmerverted shmages" and she has a Master who lives very far away, let's call that country "Shweden" lol. And anyway this girl has taken videos of herself, just her face, begging to eat his shit and worship him in all sorts of fuckedupass ways because her Master has a blackmail kink regardless of whether she wanted to record that. No, he can't cut my arm off, but I'm pretty at his mercy in the way that waking up to your mother watching your fucked up blackmail amateur porno will totally ruin your day. (and he won't push that button just like your Master won't cut your arm off)

What I mean is, you can be at someone's mercy in all kinds of ways. We don't live together but he does hold my life in his hands. I asked him to change my bank password for me last week because I was at work without a computer and I had just had a scare about my password being compromised, but it was his choice to not have that information, probably because the compulsion to check up on that might get tiresome lol. So I just feel like the statement "the dificulty in defining what constitutes a real life slave and what constitutes some other kind of slave are not at all hard to define" is really simplistic. I don't "serve" him in person every day, but of course I feel like we're "real" -- I'm getting married to him, fer chrissakes I know that your whole "online does not equal real life" schtick isn't pointed at me directly, denuseri, but I'm just saying. There's wiggle room in the definitions because there's people like me, who are not physically 24/7, but much more closely resemble 24/7 than o/l. Of course I'm not there every day to clean his house, do his laundry, and still perform all my other duties according to his rule and live my life with him. So if it's housework and other unsexy shit that makes the difference between fantasy and reality, I'd get behind that and admit right away that I'm not at all his slave in that regard (yet, though he's already conditioning me for it and I'm already steeling myself to have to do things that make me indignant lol). Everything else is just subjective opinion stated with confidence, and arguments with huge gaping holes (mmm sexy). And still, I'm sure there's some slave out there who doesn't do housework OR get slapped around (if they have house cleaners, or their Master/Mistress stays at home while they work a tiring job, or something)...

I just mean, if this is a thread that is self-professedly for the purpose of helping newbies and is in the BDSM 101 section and all that.. Then perhaps we should try and represent the intricacies and complexities of the range of experiences possible and not just "that is not how i live my life as a 24/7 slave so don't tell me it's the same" -- well of course it's not.

I guess I wanted to present a viewpoint that is neither "online is the samez as real life" nor "real life slavery is very easily defined"... One is obviously not true so it's the latter that I was concerned with. I think that's one of the more glaring myths, really.

Just as a quick addendum, if anyone here is somehow now considering giving their Master access to their bank account because some crazy bitch on the internet casually mentioned it and not because it's right for you... lol. Don't, plz. Kthx.