With the R capitalized, it really does bother me. I've always seen BDSM as something which is and always should be "safe sane and consentual". To see TheRapist on posts, makes this feel, (to me) less of a safe place. Granted the true demons could very well be hiding behind more innocent names. For someone who's been raped, reminders of it, whether intentional or not are very painful. For example, take your worst nightmare. Something that has hurt you for years and years, and then imagine it showing up in your face in a place where you come to relax and socialize. Wouldn't you want that reminder removed too?

Fantasy rape is one thing. It's not real. Role playing rape is another, both parties are willing occupants. Real rapists are people who only care about their own power and pleasure. Which is something this place is NOT about.

I know there are folks here who have delt with real rape. As one of those women, I would respectfully ask that you consider changing your name. It IS your name, and you may be the cuddliest, nicest guy around, but for me, in my mind, it reminds me that my rapist is still out there somewhere, waiting for his next victim, enjoying the peace of mind and comfort that I, and so many others no long can afford to have.