All true... plus

Quote Originally Posted by fetishdj View Post
I would also suggest you look out for any Munches in your area. These are gatherings of kinksters in safe, discrete, vanilla settings with no play or obvious signs of 'being kinky'. A perfect time to talk to like minded people and make new friends without the pressure of lifestyle roles.
I too heatily suggest a local munch as a great place to start. You'll also find that there are meetings of likeminded folk, whether they're into spanking or bondage or D/s or leather or any number of interests. Some communities have kinky book club discussions, submissives-only discussions (a great place to share issues and even find out about the suitability of potential partners within the community,) workshops, and even demonstration/participation learning opportunities.