recently I came to this site as a sub and I have found my Master and I am very happy. Along with finding my Master I also received the opportunity to have my own sub. I took up the offer and have found a sub of my own. However, I have spent so much time as a sub and have greatly enjoyed it I do now know how to be a Mistress. I need the assistance and advice of other Domme either experienced or new! thank you all!!
I'm glad I stumbled onto this thread. I'm new as well and have an online sub. I'm doing lots of reading right now, trying to find ideas that suit us best. Any advice would be appreciated.
Hey - I just searched for BDSM on Amazon and found a bunch of books I never knew existed. Two of them caught my eye:


Creating a Personal Protocol by Shannon Reilly
Protocols: Handbook for the female slave

One of these is a workbook that makes you list behaviors you admire in a sub and behaviors you want to discourage. The idea is to present the sub with the protocols right away to give them a guideline. The author claims it really speeds things up and gives new subs a lot of structure they can rely on rather than taking days/weeks to make it up as you go along.

One of them is available as an ebook...