Welcome Bree! I am also new to BDSM. As with your experience I have always been satisfied in the bed but tried little things but it was never enough. Then I got back together with an ex from high school. It had been over 6 years since I had seen him. We started hanging out and sleeping together and he told me his lil secret about BDSM. He was so scared to tell me. And now he is really surprised on how much I am into it!!! I had my first experience being Dominant last week and it was awesome. I was so nervous but it was fun All I can say is study up there is so much to learn. And if you ever have questions just ask, dont be afraid. Everyone here is honest and awesome! Good luck to you