Oz - We do have an "open relationship" but never seen the need to "branch out" to other areas. I did discuss this with him when we first talked about going into this and we decided not to "play around" with this part of our relationship... I am not very trusting to other people other than my DH (especially when it comes to guys).

ID - Like I said, he isn't doing this just for me. I have went over that with him and told him that if it was just for me, then we wouldn't do it.

Snark - Me walking out of our relationship isn't an issue (we have been together for over 9 years and married for 7). This isn't going to split us up. He is just afraid of someone seeing marks or bruises. I don't have an issue with it. I have dealt with all of that through my teenage years. But, I would love to find someone local but I don't even know where to start looking for such a person. Plus, privacy is a must for me...

DAmber - I think you totally hit it on the head. I am going to bring this up and see what we can do to move foward. I think both tried to over think everything. Go in with everything in writing. We do tend to do that both in our lives already and I think to us, it just seemed like it needed to be all out there. I will sit down and talk with him when he gets back into town next weekend though. Yeah, and I could totally see what my husband would say about renting an Oz for the night...