Quote Originally Posted by Aliandras View Post
In my search i've come across so many "doms" that are nothing but vulgar and rude and although i feel i have little experience in this.. they don't seem to know the real meaning of their roles.
Alas yes. Sturgeon's Law applies. (90% of everything is crap.)
In my day to day life I am the powerhouse. I manage work, I manage home, i have many people under me constantly looking to me for guidance and directions. I have to be tough with everyone at every turn and all the decisions are mine. I looks for my time with my dom to relieve me of this not someone elses time to be obnoxious, it's very hard for me to keep my role when i can't respect someones attitude.
Absolutely right, and this is what a M/s relationship should be.
I worry i'm asking to much of people, i fear i wont find the master that i need.
In the wise words of Miles Vorkosigan, "Aim high - you may miss but you won't shoot yourself in the foot."

If you've known excellence, of course you're not going to be happy with the mediocre. Nor should you have to. Take time and be demanding. There are Masters worthy of you out there.