Talk to him, or at minimum right a letter, me and my gf communicate like crazy, perhaps too much even lol, point is we trust each other and we dont have to worry about cheating etc, we both are more than capable of waiting for each other, we know ourselves well and love pushing that limit. You shouldnt waste a moment about not knowing what your desires are and not exploiting them, lots of ppl have the home invasion fantasy, its an easy one really, you gotta have the attitude thought, be thoughfull of details however, like we are always using a ton of diff lubes, and for this one I just kicked down the front door and boudn her with chain and leatther restraints with locks, had spare cuffs, rope and gag for all diffferent positions wed go through, talking dirty and a good porn movie always helps the mood setting. always go and reexplore her thoughts and see whats really brewing, its quite easy to get to talking about everything once the rest is done, All the best and tc^^