Umm, the only time I get caned is if I really do something stupid such as drink alcohol without permission or choose to stay out late without letting them know where I am. As I've had major issues with alcohol in the past, these are rules set in my best interests but they are absolute boundaries....If I break them, I get a caning.

And where ever possible on a Sunday all of us sit down to eat lunch together. They both feel it is a sensible thing to do and I don't mind at all. Other than that, at the weekends I can plan to go out to the cinema and stuff with my two best friends.

The two people who run my life know I can't cope with being handcuffed or anything like that. It is purely a mental thing and I'd scream the place down if they tried to punish me in that way. So of course they don't....but they do know I love listening to music so I might loose the use of my MP3 player or music center in my room for a period of time. And travelling to work without an MP3 player is sooo boring. Likewise, I love Dorito's and Diet Coke and can find those luxuries stopped very quickly indeed if I do something wrong.

The key though is communication, I always get a chance to put my side forward before they (and I stress they) make a decision. Umm, I know it seems weird but it seems to work for us and that's pretty much my view of all lifestyles that people freely enter into...if it works for others, who am I to say. I should say though that I've got supportive friends which also helps a huge amount.