BDSM is first mental, then physical. It does not require any specific chastising regime. The body will accept what the mind desires. Stimulation that may seem unpleasant in the cold hard light of the morning may produce ecstasy in the subdued light of the evening...after the appropriate introduction. What you experience now will develop changed reactions later. It is a journey...not necessarily a destination. The path is varied and crooked; kinked as it were. Enjoy the trip; find a compatible partner, if you can. It will make the travels much more interesting.