This kind of discussion is what makes this site so valuable. Informed opinion, reasoned argument, respect for others and valuable insights.

I will be thinking long about my course of action as I feel this is the first big test in our BDSM life together (except of course the first step). It is key that I get this right and as all Dominants know success is in the planning, a great deal of the pleasure too.

I hope more people will join the discussion as it has moved to cover an important area of our chosen path.