I think what you say about it being the first real test in your relationship is hitting the nail on the head Tobe.

Nagging behaviour is serious stuff to me- why say you want to submit to me, then whinge about it?

I remember such a convo with my own lisa earlier this year- I said 'babe I can't make you do anything' That was all it took, a reminder that she was in this of her own free will.

Oh & Oz- I meant what I said, but remember- my bike is a helluva lot faster than yours....

You'll have to catch me first!

Tojo