My wife approached me almost 12 years ago about having a D/s relationship. I did not laugh, but I did call it 'weird'. If I could go back in time and take those words back I would. Since then she has had two masters with out my knowledge. I very much would like to meet my wife's needs in this, but she has refused to talk to me on the subject. I really hope you and your husband can talk and communicate. It is hard I know. I am sure there are counselors that can help you talk. I do not know most have seen a lot of stuff. Maybe there is one that can help you two talk.