I dont have much to say but that Im in full agreement with the responses you have received, But Id like to put out there something to think about and can maybe be incorporated in you and your wifes situation as well as raising wonderful adults one day . Why do we treat random people in the public or workplace with more respect and thoughtfulness than the ones in our own home .

I was asked this once in counseling with my ex , It became one of those moments where we both looked at each other and agreed. Its just a thought. I am in no way stating there is rudeness and such going on , but we as a society tend to treat everyone better than our loved ones yet we love them so much .

Second, It is never to late to teach and learn , I raised twins plus an older daughter , we had to re train on Privacy , everyone should have and be allowed there private time , adults and children , children learn to respect that time as they should . They learn it by the parents comming up with ways to show them how you respect there private time , like open door in room reading time is there time . I think if you had less interruptions your job could get done and you would find there is time to spare. This also will allow for respected time you two as husband and wife need , Dom /Sub .

I also would encourage talk time . You say you have this ? well than headspace should be happening in your sub with this talk and shareing time , 30 to 45 min. depending on workload, you should have her near ,or in lap depending on your set up of things , and she should be sharing the good the bad and all with you , as well as you , must include what she has done that is disappointing as well as you . I found I needed this through the raising of a family and heavy work time. I was mandatory about it . I needed it out of everything , it was my time to be his sub in his arms and his full attention on me for good or bad , but it kept me in the close emotional place I needed to be .

Now for your wife, first Im as submissive as they come , but a Alpha female to others but who would be my Dom. Anyhow, as a sub plain and simple as long as you do your part. I would not want to have my only moments taken up with punishment , or my master seeking a lil action online to relax because I was nagging so to speak . I would be patient and waiting for he would choose to come for me not the computer when he was ready and that is how it should be .