Kink Communication

[Mrs-Sett {Kuve}]

By applying a contextual meaning to a word you influence the understanding. Sadism, to derive pleasure itself from inflicting consensual delight onto another lends itself to a direction of being dominant, as you are giving to another. Equally as a masochist you enjoy receiving the pleasure therefore taking it, submissively, subservient, taking it.

However, I also agree that it should not be presumed that as Dom/me you are automatically sadistic as sub you are masochistic. I think the level of personal dynamic determines how pleasure can be mutually experienced. Communication within the relationship is paramount, learning about each other, what is enjoyed by parties involved. As I understand it, a person can be both a sadist and a masochistic within both D/s personality traits it is the exchange of power that derives enjoyment. To make the distinction would be a matter of being honest, to give or receive is ultimately to experience and please each other in an individual manner

Sett

[thir]

[QUOTE=Miss-Sett {Kuve};Sadism, to derive pleasure itself from inflicting consensual delight onto another lends itself to a direction of being dominant, as you are giving to another. Equally as a masochist you enjoy receiving the pleasure therefore taking it, submissively, subservient, taking it.
Sett[/QUOTE]

I disagree with this interpretation. Giving pain does not imply being dominant, being active in any way does not in itself imply domination. A therapist massaging an injury and causing pain is not therefore a dominant, nor is the patient a submissive. A dentist is not a dominant, nor is the patient a submissive. Necessarily, anyway ;-)

It is true that a sadist need not be dominant in any way whatsoever, and a masochist need not be submissive. I have seen people who could not find a partner 'do' each other as a favor, after discussing how.

I think most are probably a bit of each, but if you lean toward being much more dom than sadist or vice versa, you should definitely make it clear on so many words.