The ethics of playing with a newbie.

[RacerX]

Well...

Every are going to have their own answers.. but for myself-

I don't really feel that I 'do scenes'.. I am just me, doing what I do... I'm not performing, it's coming from a more natural place... But anyway, play with a brand new submissive? Sure, why not? If no one played with new people, then new people would never get played with.. and that's sad.

Sure, why not? There's something sweet about being the first to try to find those "Mmmm... " spaces that turn her to jelly (and seeing them for the first time)... and also, I suppose, trying to answer from an Authentic/Honest and Open place.... something about not having to worry about being judged by her previous experiences, previous Doms.. (of course, I can hold my own in many areas, and could use a little practice in others) but, generally speaking, not having that be a factor at all is interesting in it's own right....

And why, if it's with a new sub, does that mean that's it's automatically top/bottom? I've played with complete newbie, and yet was still in the confines of a relationship... (perhaps not a completely solid one, ie- still a new one.. but still, it wasn't just 'top/bottom'...)

What's wrong with that?

-Rx

[TheDoctor]

Well...
I don't really feel that I 'do scenes'.. I am just me, doing what I do... I'm not performing, it's coming from a more natural place...

I applaud your drive for individualism, but the way you frame that kind of makes it seem like you are saying that because you don't do 'scenes' that for some reason that makes your style of play more natural than that of those that do. I don't think that's what you meant, but it's the way it comes across. For me, and I think for most, 'scene' is the word used that describes the transition from rest to action. Outside of the confines of a 24/7 relationship, there really does need to be some clearly marked boundaries and keeping your play confined to a scene is the easiest, safest, and most negotiable way of making sure everyone is getting what they need. I don't feel as if I'm performing when I am in a scene, nor do I feel like it is unnatural.