Face slapping

[Mastrovenice]

I've had subs of both opinions. One hated it and had its as a hard limit, the other, well lets say it was a prerequisite for her to get rolling. I never realized its power until I saw the effect it had on subs that allow it. As a Dom, I enjoy it very much.

[dillinja]

i use it as an attention getter for my sub. She does not like it as a turn on, but she understands its just a repremand and not me trying to harm her. I dont like doing it, im afraid im going to blacken an eye or just end up knocking the crap outta her, she's a tiny lil thing and i got huge mechanic hands. Most of the time i can just raise my hand back and threaten a slap and she get's the point, i dont know if she's just extra frisky or something some days but every once in a while she gets the bite..

another thing i do sometimes is that slap to the back/top of the head thing. I dont know what to call it, but everyone has seen it and done it before. It really pisses most people off, and when i do it in the opening of a scene it sets her in the mood like "ok MF'er i can take what you got, bring it" which always is fun for the both of us.

[ces3]

I enjoy slapping my little sub. When she needs it and somtimes just because I want to. Only when it is part of our play time though. I would never slap my sub who is also my lovely wife otherwise.

[IAmCanadian]

I love face-slapping and it's one of the BDSM practices that I was able to "sneak in" to relationships that were otherwise BDSM free. It requires no props and is incredibly symbolic and visceral. Just a few of the reasons I love face-slapping:

1. The connotation of the submissive permitting herself to be abused in ways that would offend "conventional" women. This not only suggests a lack of self-esteem on her part that I find unspeakably sexy, but also a capitulation that is equally sexy.

2. Hitting women is wrong. In enlightened sadism we know this, and so a woman who permits herself to be slapped around can be said to have something wrong with her. For me "something wrong" and "depravity" or "taboo" overlap almost exactly in meaning, and so there's a lot of eroticism to be found there.

3. Gives the man a feeling of dominance. Harkens back to the caveman days when we used to club women over the head and drag them back to the lair. Of course, this is the dumbest macho male fantasy of all time, but the fact that the woman is complicit in it by allowing her face to be slapped shows her devotion to you. When devotion outweighs enlightenment, that's my favorite form of submission.

- FS

[SUBtly_shy]

I personally enjoy it. I like the quick flash of pain the stinging warm feeling after and the intense eye contact. I tend to close my eyes alot and its a nice way to be reminded to open them. that way I get to enjoy the feeling with out seeing my masters hand come down (which is the difficult part to me).

[shayna{L_D}]

I personally enjoy it. I like the quick flash of pain the stinging warm feeling after and the intense eye contact. I tend to close my eyes alot and its a nice way to be reminded to open them. that way I get to enjoy the feeling with out seeing my masters hand come down (which is the difficult part to me).

Im going to agree with you. I have been in some abusive relationships but when it comes to bdsm and the bedroom im all for face slappping. I like to close my eyes a lot during vanilla sex and i would think during bdsm sex, i even close them a lot when im masturbating. I was only once slapped in my face during sex, rough sex and i love it, if i could cum i would have came right there! But i agree with others also, it has to be done by the right person, the right time, and with the right amount of force.

[QuietMaster]

I have been in some abusive relationships but when it comes to bdsm and the bedroom im all for face slappping.

Hence, to note the profound sifference between use and abuse.

It is not about what is done, but rather how, why and when something is done.

[Oak]

Even though I'm a (maybe quite experienced) Dom, I'm not especially into Face slapping. Maybe due to the fact that I've got a deaf ear due to that.

[Mdv8ed]

Personally, i don't enjoy it that much unless its very light. The reasons mainly being that i get headaches easily and have heard ringing after being slapped. Usually the pain doesnt bother me its just my need for an advil and hoping i dont go deaf after = )

[subserviant]

luv to have my face slapped in the right context and i mean slapped not punched or hit so hard that it causes damage

[manda]

I'm of the opinion no face slapping at all --but yes grabbing my chin......would work. I guess I equate face slapping with abuse. For me a little pain goes a long way in heating me up - no need to get anywhere near my face. But for sure -different strokes for different folks.

[angelic.zest]

ive always enjoyed face slapping, a nice flash of stinging pain gets my attention real quick. i dont enjoy close hand slap, something open, light and firm to my face gets me going. im not into abuse, and i do understand alot of ppl assoicate it with abuse but for me, it gets me going and hot and all those naughty things!

[jeanne]

ive always enjoyed face slapping, a nice flash of stinging pain gets my attention real quick. i dont enjoy close hand slap, something open, light and firm to my face gets me going. im not into abuse, and i do understand alot of ppl assoicate it with abuse but for me, it gets me going and hot and all those naughty things!

[icey]

face slapping can be a bit of an emotional one for people,and reactions can work out very differently to how it's planned it's almost always startling and unexpected when it happens even when you do know its going to be part of play, its also a form of humiliation and not everyone can handle that psychologically or emotionally.

when we had not been together too long we discussed it and decided we would go for it but we didnt 'plan' a specific time or scenario.
one particular night we were getting toys etc prepared ready to play with later but id also been acting up a little and had been warned about my attitude a couple of times, i answered back thinking he was still being serious with me and got a gentle slap across the face for the first time ever..it was poor communication between us both in all honesty,IH had decided to start play and used that as a means to bring it about thinking id be aware of that we'd played like that many times.
but it kind of went wrong lol in my past r/ships id had partners who would beat me etc and i flipped thinking it was going to happen again, i jumped up threw the ashtray at him which split inside his ear open pretty badly saw him stand up and blood all over the place came towards me and i charged into the kitchen got the bread knife and cowered in the corner convinced he would knock the s**t out of me!
as it happened he was coming to reassure me that he wasnt and hadnt intended to hurt me even though he was faint and wobbling all over the place but it took a lot of convincing on his part he'd done it in play and not for real, things could have ended up very serious that night.

so it makes me very nervous and im never fully comfortable with it and it's something i rarely do.
it can turn me on to a degree possibly because nervousness turns me on anyway but its one area i have to be careful with and need to know in advance that its going to be a possibility for my partners benefit too!

[hiiro]

I would state that face slapping is a turn on fore me, however I would rather just say that any slapping to any sensitive part of my body will send lovely chills down my side.

[shyslut]

Im intrigued with slapping but in addition to all the societal baggage I have baggage from when i was a child. These days if someone slaps me it completely sets me off anger and rage, attacking and hysterical crying for hours. Yet its still something I want to work up to in a bdsm context. After a convo with dom about I had an entire week of slapping nightmares. So who knows when ill be ready.

[plump_slut]

For me, slapping can be fun as long as it's an approved part of our play. If a man slapped my face in a "normal" context, he'd get - at best - slapped right back. But between a loving, trusting dom and sub, it can be interesting and erotic.

[Jefe]

My slave likes being lightly slapped in the face, and it does give me quite a rush to oblige her! I do it sparingly, and very carefully. I keep it just to her cheek, below the cheekbone, because I don't want to cause any bruises. This also keeps me from accidentally hitting her in the eye. I never slap her very hard, but I don't have to - she likes to close her eyes, so I'll usually surprise her with it. She usually doesn't see it coming, and her reaction is incredible.

[jezabel]

i hate being slapped across my face, i have an abusive ex to thank for that, and react violently if it happens, as Master found out in play, (luckily He has very fast reactions lol).
ive asked Him to push this as i cant even bear to have my right cheek stroked (i react more extremely to my right side than to my left), slowly were working on it, i dont think i will EVER like Him to slap my face but i do want Him to be able to stroke me without fear of getting a punch back

[SubmissiveDoll]

I rather enjoy my Master slapping my face. Only in a sexual context though. It really is about why it's being done, more than what is being done, I have to agree on that. If He were to hit me out of anger... well, we'll just say that I wouldn't be turned on. *grins* However, in the midst of sexual excitement, it is tremendously arousing.

[Veralynne]

I suppose I will post just to agree that I enjoy face-slapping. I actually had the opposite problem- I had a hard time finding a guy that was willing to slap me in the face. One guy I dated with a relatively sadistic streak (loved to choke, hurt, make me cry, etc.) still couldn't be brought to do it even after much encouragement. I think it has to be done in the right way... i.e. not a way that would seriously injure or bruise the woman (I mainly say this because I am quite small and delicate and a man, especially a strong one, could easily do some damage). I find, as a sub, that it is a very good reminder of your place, and what you have chosen to submit to. The fact that it happens at all- shows you that the man has power over you; and the fact that you stay with him after it happens shows you just how twisted you are... but in a good way :-) Luckily, I think I've found someone that will slap me. :-P

[guest010609]

I love face slapping, as does my Master. Around here it is done in play, during sex, and sometimes as a punishment. I was taught very early on in our relationship how to remain completely still and not jerk away or move to shield myself, as that is how injury could occur. As long as I merely accept it, he is always right on the mark with his aim.

[hopperboo]

The minute someone used face slapping against me as a 'punishment' I'd be walking out the door.

Face slapping to many is already close to abuse, and has to be treated carefully (I'm still not fully sure how much I like the idea of it...I love it in some ways, and I detest it in others), but to me I think the minute that is used as a punishment it becomes abuse.

And I don't mean that in a pretty sense of the word.


All IMHO.

[guest010609]

The minute someone used face slapping against me as a 'punishment' I'd be walking out the door.

Face slapping to many is already close to abuse, and has to be treated carefully (I'm still not fully sure how much I like the idea of it...I love it in some ways, and I detest it in others), but to me I think the minute that is used as a punishment it becomes abuse.

And I don't mean that in a pretty sense of the word.


All IMHO.

Hi! I must admit, I'm curious... how is using a bullwhip on a slave, or a cat o' nine tails, or a bamboo cane, not abuse when used as punishment, in your opinion? I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion...I just don't understand. No matter how hard a slap is, whether it is with the front or the back of the hand, whether it is one cheek or both- I can't inherently view it as abusive. Not when the same slave might have been given 20 or more bullwhip lashes, or strikes with a cane. Not only does it not hurt as much, it doesn't have anywhere near the same damage potential (in most cases), and can (depending on the situation) lack premeditation. If I were going to catagorize anything bdsm as abusive, inherently, I would point to dozens of creative punishments before I would face slapping. I think perhaps many women just have it set that anything above the shoulders is abuse... but there's really no logical reason for that, that I can think of. I've actually known far more victims of abuse who were never hit in the face because of the potential for marks, than I have victims who were regularly slapped across the face. This is JMO... this just seems like more of an emotional reation than a logical one. Not that there's anything wrong with that either. --Jenn

[hopperboo]

Yeah. It's an emotional one, and I wouldn't put up with it.

To me that's akin to punching in the stomach.



.....and just to throw this out there, I don't believe in punishments that involve bullwhips at all or actual damage.

Most wouldn't know how the hell to handle a bull whip in the first place, and I'd damn sure not let them near my body with one.

[jezabel]

Yeah. It's an emotional one, and I wouldn't put up with it.

To me that's akin to punching in the stomach.



.....and just to throw this out there, I don't believe in punishments that involve bullwhips at all or actual damage.

Most wouldn't know how the hell to handle a bull whip in the first place, and I'd damn sure not let them near my body with one.

i agree, no way would i let anyone near me with one of those....a crop, paddle, cane even, theyre fine but a bull whip no, never and Master knows this and would never expect me too

[guest010609]

i agree, no way would i let anyone near me with one of those....a crop, paddle, cane even, theyre fine but a bull whip no, never and Master knows this and would never expect me too

I really must reiterate... there's little difference between a bullwhip and the average singletail... except they handle easier, and a great one is still cheaper than most so-so singletails. Once again, I am really surprised by this response... maybe we happen to have far more severe tools in general than most people have, but I much prefer the bullwhip to the nasty-made-in-hell-and fashioned-from-evil crop that my Master has.

[sinderella]

i like it, either during a scene or just fooling around, but only a quick, attention-getting slap on the side of my face...to me it is just as stimulating and erotic as hair-pulling...it tells me 'don't forget who in in control here, so you'd better be a good girl'... i don't see the problem with it if it is not done in anger, and done for sexual expression. the ideal 'slap' would be where you are on your knees in front of him and Master grabs a good chunk of your hair and pulls it so that you face him, but, you, feeling a little spirited that day, might fight it a little bit and then he just sort of quickly smacks your face while talking to you, saying something like 'huh? are you listening, you little slut?', then grabbing your chin and making you kiss him like the slut that you are. yum.

[slavedoggieboy]

My first two Mistresses used face slapping to punish me and to put me in my place.
They employed a hand signal to me that told me to kneel in front of them so they could more easily slap my face. This would occur at any time i displeased them.
FOr me, it made me feel like a lowly piece of nothing when it was done, especially if done in the presence of others, as was done many times.

slavedoggieboy

[guest010609]

Yeah. It's an emotional one, and I wouldn't put up with it.

To me that's akin to punching in the stomach.



.....and just to throw this out there, I don't believe in punishments that involve bullwhips at all or actual damage.

Most wouldn't know how the hell to handle a bull whip in the first place, and I'd damn sure not let them near my body with one.

Actually, I have no real issue with punching either when practiced in a safe manner... but edge play isn't for everyone. I actually said nothing about actual damage being done, merely that there is far more of a risk with some tools than with a face slap. I suppose that, yes, *some* do not no how to handle one, but really anyone who knows singletail can do it- it's no different. In my Master's case, he's been working whips since he was 10 years old... so it's not a big concern to me. I think your reactions are far outweighing what is being said by me, and I'm not sure why. <shrugs and adds face slapping to her list of beloved edge play>