It’s in the Genes …

[annie]

Ok... my family must be normally dysfunctional... lol.

This is what i know...

My mom knows about my choice (in the most general of terms)... she understands my need to submit but doesn't approve of the pain (big shocker there.) BUT... mom and i also have a type of relationship that one day... about 10 years ago (when i was mid 20's and before i even knew about D/s) she called me and asked me how to do a bj and a 69. So, even though i was a bit shocked even THINKING of my mother being interested in sex... i know she is (and did give details on how to do each... even though i was blushing so hard it was unreal!). i also know she "subbed" to one gentleman, although she claims she was "just trying to make him happy." The whole women's rights thing in there some where i think...

My brother found me in yahoo one day in a D/s room. He was SHOCKED and couldn't believe i wanted to be with those "sick" people. This coming from the boy who used to tie his penis so tight i'm surprised it didn't fall off. How do i know this... i used to catch him doing it on a regular basis. Of course at that point i thought he was "sick." lol. i know he still does self bondage, his wife has said as much, although i don't think he would ever admit to anything more about it... lol.

And then there is my grandmother... the patriarch of the family. She is Domme, period. She may not claim to be Domme but her behavior and such always has been. i don't think she "physically" Dommed my grandfather (mom and i have this mental image of my grandfather on top, trying his best, my grandmother looking at the ceiling making a mental note that it needs another coat of paint when he was done... lol) Anyhow... i have no doubt she mentally Dommed him.

So is it genetics... i think in portion it may be... but i don't think that is the overall deciding factor. i honestly think that the largest factor is that now the information on it is more readily available so people are better able to explore and grow in their preferences. It is no longer a matter of trying to keep it secret and not being able to even find a bit of information about it... if that makes any sense....

Ok..... i'm through rambling! sorry!

[TheDeSade]

my family was wound so tight that they could have been an alarm clock. that being said, I am pretty sure that both my kids are kinked. SO maybe its not in the genes, maybe it is a virus that we catch?

[annie]

my family was wound so tight that they could have been an alarm clock. that being said, I am pretty sure that both my kids are kinked. SO maybe its not in the genes, maybe it is a virus that we catch?

i know my kids are a bit on the kink side even at 7, 7, and 5...

Both of my daughters loves to be spanked and my son is forever conning his sisters into tying him up... lol.

Will be interesting to see in 20 years... lol.

[zadirasub20]

My mom is pretty prudish. Though I did find pics once that I wish I had NEVER found lol. I dont know about my dad though, hes a transgender individual...thats all the more I really know about the 'man'. *shrugs* So probablly not gentic here...

[Ozme52]

I think the inclination to be dom or sub is "nature" (genetic.) How one expresses that inclination is more about "nuture" (environment.)

That doesn't mean that your parents were lifestylers... anything in your environment can lead you toward or away from your nature. From childsplay to school to a multiplicity of media, including the net.

[Ocean_Soul]

I got a kinky brother, most likely dominant as well it seems. That's all I know of.

[smilie]

i know my natural father is where i get it from it is amazing sometimes just how close to the tree the nut falls!! I met him when i was 20 and the first time i ever saw him he had a book on jap. rope tying and had a bunch of crops and stuff he had just picked up at the leather shop, and silly me i though they were for his horses....... a few monthes later i found out he didn't have any horses!!!

[Amberxiao]

To the person who said their parents were Catholic, so they couldn't get it from there...

I don't know... There's a lot of non-obvious kink in Catholicism: confession, penance, stigmata, and the various painful practices some of the saints/monasteries/convents practice...

Of course, it's not sexual, it's spiritual *nods*

That said. I think my dad might have some inclination in that area and I know my cousin (dad's twin's daughter) definitely does.

My mom has always been the "dominant" one in the household, but I don't think she's kinky - I think she's just a strong woman, if that makes sense. I know when I tried to tell her about myself, she didn't want to hear any more.

And yet another way I'm strange: the idea of my parents having sex doesn't bother me in the least, although I think they ought to do it more often than they do (at least based on the small amount of information they've given me on the subject and on the fact that I know my mom usually waits until my dad is asleep before going to bed).