Question for all who are NOT "Switches"

[csr]

We gave it a shot--just to see. She absolutely hated the feeling of losing control—submission scared her and upset her. For me...well, she looked great, so that was a turn-on I guess, but the whole being in control and playing dominant just does nothing for me. I'm just not wired that way, in an erotic sense.

It's funny to me because I love M/f pictures, videos, stories—in fact I read them more than F/m ones—all a big turn on, but in a r/l scene I wanna be on the bottom.

[Ruby]

Mistress Ruby comes out to play - with permission, of course.

I really like your description:
Gender / BDSM Role: Fem/SelectivelySubmissive

Because it could also apply to me. I used to be a 24/7 dominant personality,
Topping from the bottom even when we played.

Then I discovered how much pleasure he gets when
I let him be in charge and how much more pleasure I receive
when we play. With Master T, I'm happy to be submissive.
With others, no.

That said, outside of the bedroom/playroom, we're very much
a partnership. So having him be submissive all day wouldln't happen.

BUT, it is a great fantasy and has possiblities for the next trip
away from the kids. I'd love to put that man on a leash and
parade him around town.

What do I like to do / would be sure to do?
Velcro restraints, my long hair as a tickler, a blindfold...
Yup, I like him spread and available. Ready to tease and please.
Maybe Mistress Ruby is going to have to come out again soon. LOL!

*** BabySub you rock! Thanks for the confession. ***

[Ranai]

I would probably not object to to trying it out with my partner. I doubt that I would get that much fun out of it, though, since imagining myself taking a submissive sexual role does nothing for my libido...

But there is more to it. It might perplex my partner. I have met his former – years ago – partner. She is a really nice woman, now happily married to someone else. He has mentioned to me that towards the end of their relationship, she told him she was fantasizing a lot about having rough sex with all sorts of tough brutal guys who take control. Nothing in a very kinky way, really, just totally letting them take over and get screwed silly. So one of the reasons why they broke up was a compatibility problem. She was not content about his submissive disposition – which I find a glorious gift and incredibly sexy.

So I don't want to give him a weird déjà vu for something I am not particularly interested in. I leave it to him. If he comes up with the idea one day, I will consider it. But, in the roles we are both happy to take, me in control, and he turning over control, there are still so many pleasures to explore...