Annoyingly dominant

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Well since it is Friday, I am having a drink right now, I ran out of milk anyway.

Since I'm confident, dominant and lacking of social phobias people tend to, (falsely) assume I know everything. As they are in this job now. When I turn out to have been honest about my abilities, and not falsely humble as they assumed, that is the problem.

I don't think that your dominant traits really affect your performance at work. Sure it somewhat affects your working relationship amongst your co-workers, which may or may not be reflective with your bosses. Unless you are getting into serious spats with others, I wouldn't worry about it.

I don't understand though; is it your bosses or your co-workers who are assuming things?
You are relatively new to this job, if you knew everything there was to know, you'd be elsewhere, making more money, having more responsibility. No one knows everything. You learn your job well by mistakes and continuous learning.
If you've never done anything wrong or have made a mistake at work, then you should bronze yourself into a statue because you are a very rare specimen.


Co-workers can be a pain in the ass most days, when a confident person steps into thier boundry, they seek to find fault in your abilities however they can.

Since you say your dominant traits show up at work, I am going to assume that they are trying to use that to thier advantage, by trying to knock your confident attitude down a notch.
The only recourse I can think of is learning how to deal with each individual person.
It's the office politics that you don't ever want to get into but you are going to have to play anyway. Do your homework, it does pay off in the long run, even if you don't care about it now.

You're a very smart guy Tom, so I doubt that you could be easily intimidated by others. And eventually the people who dislike you will undoubtably respect you.
As for your bosses, they are always watching, they pay attention to your work ethic, and your ability to interact with others, but it is your work ethic first and foremost.

Relax have a beer and keep doing what you are doing. Dominant or not, you will rise above what others assume, and they will stop questioning your every move.

[Tojo]

The hardest thing I ever had to do in my life, was coming to terms with myself on all levels.

When you can look at yourself in the mirror & like what you see, wake up each morning & be pleased that you've done your best the day before, it's a pretty nice thing.

If that can be achieved, what other people think is of no importance.

This is not meant to be seen as advice for Tom, or some analysis taken from a few lines on a screen- it's just what works for me.

[TomOfSweden]

You're a very smart guy Tom, so I doubt that you could be easily intimidated by others. And eventually the people who dislike you will undoubtably respect you.
As for your bosses, they are always watching, they pay attention to your work ethic, and your ability to interact with others, but it is your work ethic first and foremost.

You may be right. I'm much better at solving other peoples problems than my own. aren't we all?