How to give the BEST blow job?

[Kelli]

I found using my mouth and hand works the best, since I can't deep throat either... yet...

I start by just using my mouth, taking of much of him in as I can, while my hand fondles his balls and perinium. Then I start to slide my hand over his cock, my hand in the shape of an "O." When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild. With my free hand, I caress his anus (he has yet to let my finger in, even though we both think he would like it, he's a little homophobic), so I just lightly caress the opening, which drives him crazy as well. I keep pumping, gradually increasing, and as he cums, I pump my hand as hard as I can over his shaft. He shoots over his head sometimes (he's 6'1" with a long torso). If anyone else uses this, lemme know what you think.

[angelpet]

I love to pleasure a man by giving him a blow job. Being able to deep throat...takes a lot of practice indeed. I found the best position for me is…that if I’m on my knees in front of him and my head is tilted back with me basically looking up into his eyes. If he takes it nice and slow at feeding me his cock and softly massages my throat with his hand as he pushes it deeper, I can deep throat him.
The main thing I have to do on my end…is just relax.
(talking nasty to me, telling me I’m the best cock sucker you have ever had…always helps)
The secret for me is relaxing my throat…
I found with practice, relaxing…helps my gag reflex tremendously.

As for using my tongue…I do this squiggly movement with my tongue on the underside of the shaft…going down and coming back up…this seems to drive him wild. Sucking the head in and out of my mouth…seems to be pretty effective also.

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds.

[naomi]

But I believe one of the biggest turn-ons to giving a good blow job is…..
The sounds…the slurps, the slops, the moans and the groans…the SOUNDS of a cock sliding in and out of a moist wet mouth is a turn-on within itself. I love those sounds.


i agree 100% angelpet! i've enjoyed reading this particular thread very much. my man does not allow me to touch his cock with my hands when i am giving him a blowjob. i'm usually kneeling, with my hands behind my back. a particular turn on for me is having his hand tightly gripping the hair at the back of my head. he is able to control me that way (speed and depth) and i can just relax and concentrate on the sensation of his shaft sliding over my tongue and opening myself to the deepest penetration of my mouth and throat possible. i am a bit of a drooler, which turns him on to no end.

respectfully,
n.

[janie]

Why are nearly all the replies here from females?

I rather hoped for some detailed description from men as to what they really like.

Is it just that the men receiving the attention really just don't care much how so long as they are getting it at all, or what?

*remembers "queer as folk" where the best instruction was given by gay men*

janie

[GaryWilcox]

The most important thing for me is not just suction, but focusing that suction entirely on the egde of the lips. You can use the whole mouth to do that, but that just speeds along the process, and I want it prolonged and intense in one area!

I think the most important sensation is the lower lip on the underside of the shaft. Outside of that, I like a vocal girl, someone who is actually turned on by doing it, someone who doesn't mind when I take charge of it with a grip on the back of her head, balling her hair into my fist...

Pulling out of her mouth and making her take long licks across the length, with the lights on and in the living room, is great fun.

[janie]

That's better. Thanks.

[new master]

for me variety is best a little sucking a little kissing along the length alot of slurping some deep throat kissing the balls and maybr im the only one but i love it when my wife'sub slaps her face with it

[Spitman]

I found using my mouth and hand works the best, since I can't deep throat either... yet...

I start by just using my mouth, taking of much of him in as I can, while my hand fondles his balls and perinium. Then I start to slide my hand over his cock, my hand in the shape of an "O." When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild. With my free hand, I caress his anus (he has yet to let my finger in, even though we both think he would like it, he's a little homophobic), so I just lightly caress the opening, which drives him crazy as well. I keep pumping, gradually increasing, and as he cums, I pump my hand as hard as I can over his shaft.

Kelli, everything you have described fits in with the very best I have experienced. Your partner is a very lucky man!

There is one suggestion I can make that is not in your description, although you might be doing it anyway! One very sensitive area is the groove on either side between the scrotum and the anus. With your fingers in a vee, reach underneath from behind, and run your parted fingers in very lightly on both sides of the groove simultaneously. Talk about going from hard to solid rock! The feel of a woman's fingers doing that is indescribable, and combined with the rest of what you are doing with your mouth, I'm sure it will be fantastic.

There's one general comment I would make to all of you women who want to make a big impression on us men. Perhaps the most common mistake a woman makes is to presume that ejaculation = male orgasm. Not so. As I'm sure you all know, you can cause a man to ejaculate very quickly with all kinds of techniques, but there is very little, if any pleasure involved. In fact, there are two different processes going on and they happen at very different speeds. If you get it wrong, the ejaculation occurs long before he is anywhere near a real orgasm.

As many people have said in here many times, the most erogenous zone is the mind. I would add that the second most erogenous zone a man has is a woman, the third is anywhere except where you think it is, and the fourth is exactly where you think it is. For a man to achieve maximum pleasure there needs to be a slow buildup, so his mind becomes focused on all those visual, tactile and other erotic sensations. During this buildup remember the order of those erogenous zones. He needs to be in the mood, then he needs to be able to touch and feel you, then he needs to feel your touch, arousing his whole body, focusing his mind so that he is fully aroused and ready and desperately wanting you to touch him in those very obvious places. Use techniques like those described by Kelli but take your time, let him stay hard for a while while he feels the intense sensations that he can only enjoy in that state of arousal, and then, when you sense that he is ready, tip him over the edge and you will get an ejaculation that fully justifies being described as a male orgasm. Those special sensations of pleasure come from all parts of the genitalia, especially the most sensitive areas like around and beneath the scrotum.

Some men may like it when you close your thumb and forefinger around his ball sack and pull his balls gently away from the body while you do all those wonderful things with your mouth.

[JohnZ]

some times a picture is worth a 1,000 words.


But to me - I need to fee the woman's breasts between my thighs and pushed up at my balls -- that is a sensual feeling for me.

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

anyway - those are some of my thoughts.

John

[learningtopleez]

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

John

John...I am not positive about the nerve endings being cut during circumcision, but it makes sense. I have read and heard that men w/o circumcisions have more feeling...so I guess it is possible.

As for never having cum but once from receiving head....Max was sort of like that. The first time I gave him a bj....nothing...nada...so I'm thinking to myself....well, I suck at this and not in a good way! But he explained that it is very difficult for him to cum while getting a bj. But on my next visit, he had abstained from masturbating for about three days...plus he gave me incentive...I couldn't cum until I made him cum! Btw...he told me this after he already had me squirming from oral! So I proceeded to give him the best bj I had ever given. Ya know how sometimes...the rhythm of your hands and your mouth just come together perfectly?? Well the ladies probably get this! So anyway....it worked! And I got two rewards that day!

I am sure that you may have already tried this...but I thought I would throw in my 2 cents!

[Nikita]

Posted by JohnZ: My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

Not that the title of this post has anything to do with the subject, butt, it triggered the thought of circular thinking. John, both your statements point to personal 'head games'. (That phrase wasn't intentional, but hey, it worked out that way. )

And that is what orgasm is anyway, a head game. Women have that same inner dialogue that eventually leads them to give up or die trying to cum. But their dialogue runs along the lines of "if I enjoy this, he'll think I'm a slut" or the usual "good girls don't cum from oral sex." Most of the soccer moms I know look like they gave up. I NEVER give up... and glad I still don't!

(Anyway, thought I'd give you a little insight into thinking of women in the Bible Belt)

I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

See! It is a head game with yourself. Personally, I don't believe in your theory of 'not being in control,' as a possible reason for not reaching orgasm with a bj. The silent way you do orgasm has to do with your mind.

I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita

[JohnZ]

I'm with LTP, whose 2 cents is worth 4 bits, then 6 bits, and finally, a whole dollar. She wisely hinted that a little abstention accompanied frustration will quickly cure you of any hesitancy about cumming from a bj on that special person's lips.

Nikita

Well I will agree that it is most likely a "head game" - it is all in my head (though do not discount the control thing - since that is a head game in itself - for who is ever in control really?)

As for the abstention - that theory has been tested to no avail. -- But I will say - the one time that I did come from a BJ - it was from my lovely wife, when she was determined to make me cum. She kept at it -- to take me over the threshold. Unfortuantly I get to the point normally- but do not crest. (so it can be done, I just have not have had the patient partner, though my wife's jaw did hurt from the time she spent on me that time, and has not rallied that kind of desire again - I guess it was something to check off her list - and then - not worry about it any more.)

Thanks for the feedback -

John

[somewriter]

I have a spare moment or two so I thought I'd add my thoughts to this discussion, trying to address various points I've picked up in the other threads.

First-up, on the subject of deepthroating. I agree that for men it is not the be-all and end-all of blow job sensations - it is good, but it is not the best that can be done. However, as we all know, the mind is the main erogenous zone and I can't held but be turned on by the knowledge that a girl is close to choking on my cock which is filling her mouth.

Jaeangel - five inches isn't that small - I imagine it's still hard to get it all in. Between the regular blow-jobs, the handcuffs for the purpose, and your offer of anal, you get high marks from me!

Anyway, mouth plus hand covering the rest of the shaft is a good way to go, combined movement of the two. It is quite rare that I come from only contact with her mouth - I need the firm grip of a hand as well to finish me off, might just be me though! However, if I'm being dom and go for a long face-fucking, that can turn me on enough to do the trick.

Continuing with the all-important-mind theme, there are two accompaniments to a blow-job that really do it for me (especially when I'm sub and tied up). One is teasing; tempting me with the promise of a blow job at first, but then making me wait, and beginning slowly. The other is facesitting - with or without blindfold and/or gag, the smell (and perhaps sight and taste) of a woman that I cannot escape from is all the extra arousal I could ever need. Do the other guys agree on the last point, or am I isolated in that view?

[pejanon]

some times a picture is worth a 1,000 words.


I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

My own thoughts on this is that it might be a control thing with me. I feel like when I am receiving head - I am the one receiving - not doing - and by not "doing" I am not in control -- as a Dom - I like to be in control.

anyway - those are some of my thoughts.

John

Nerve ending cut!? No, as far as I know, Supposedy the nerve endinging get desensitized on exposed glans - possiby a myth too.

I will go with the control factor - very powerfull. I can cum but tend to shy away from it. I see it more as a reward I like to give for great effort.

Deepthoating is for me more metnal dominat thing then great plasur - at last I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm


uncut Pej

[learningtopleez]

I haven't receved one yet that was pure pleasure ... hmmm
uncut Pej

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

[pejanon]

I am soooo NOT going there!! But man do I wanna!

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

[charlestudor]

NOT?


wanna?


there are ways of making pipe dreams come true...
Then - there are OTHER ways.... of making it treu


P

"pipe dreams?" -- maybe this is what i should call it when i close my eyes, and visualize a beautiful woman wrapping her lips around my cock, as i inevitably have to resort to getting myself off.

ct

[OttifantSir]

I have only cum once from receiving head. My wife thinks that my cock might not be as sensative as most men. Is there a possibility that when I was having my cercumsision when I was a boy -that some nerve endings were cut? I have no problem keeping my erection - but it takes me being "inside" to have me cum.

John

Well, a study I read about a few years back said that un-circumcised men have 8 layers of skin on the tip of the cock, in general. While circumsised men have 14 layers of skin in general. Your cock-head isn't anatomically much different from your fingers and what happens when you do something too much? You get calluses. That's what happens. So, no cut nerve-endings, just a bit more skin to get through to those nerves.

[OttifantSir]

When my hand slides down, I slip my mouth over the head and give it a quick swirl, then bring my hand back over the top. As I bring my hand up, I twist it, which is what he says drives him wild.

This technique was described in a show on Norwegian TV3 a while back. They called it "Lighting the Fire"