Mistakes by a Dom/me

[Rhabbi]

Rhabbi....

i can only speak for myself on this...

Since the relationship is built on trust, and for me trust is built on respect it is very important for me to trust my Dom and that can only occur when He realizes that He is human and mistakes happen. When the topic is avoided or the blame deflected back to someone/something else and it is never discussed my respect for Him falters and in turn the trust i have in Him. (If that makes any sense at all...)

Exactly what I think also. I cannot go about knowing that I have done something wrong and not make amends.

As to if a public mistake deserves a public apology... well that i am not so sure on...the acknowledgment (not even an apology) is more important then the location/venue it is in.

I understand, and I personallly thank you for the insight. My best guess to this is that Dom/mes should discuss the situation with their sub/slave and offer to make the apology public. In other words, it should be a mutual decision and a matter of mutual respect, right?

[precious]

Exactly what I think also. I cannot go about knowing that I have done something wrong and not make amends.



I understand, and I personally thank you for the insight. My best guess to this is that Dom/mes should discuss the situation with their sub/slave and offer to make the apology public. In other words, it should be a mutual decision and a matter of mutual respect, right?

In my opinion yes... it should be mutual. If something happened that was such a huge mistake that He felt the need to apologies in public that is well and good and i would appreciate the fact He wanted to do that. But, depending on what it was... for me it might just be better to let it die quietly. There is nothing like trying to do the right thing and making the initial situation worse in that process.... Plus, if it is a mistake against me in public do W/we really want/need to keep rehashing O/our issues for the world to see?

That is just my opinion... others may feel differently....

[Rhabbi]

Once again, my thanks.