The blight of experience...

[TomOfSweden]

I always feel very sorry for young and inexperienced Doms, there is an assumption that they know what they are doing, and all too often their lack of experience combined with enthusiasm results in them being labeled as wannabes.

Only based on talking to Doms at parties my extremly simplified model of Domery is that a true Doms start out their career being/feeling really really strange about sex, and having trouble conveying this without scaring subs/women off.

Wannabes have the oposite problem. Their biggest problem is rampant normalness and general cluelessness about what turns a sub on. It's more a an identity/subcluture thing than a craving.

I'm very open here to be extremly wrong. But it's my theory for now.

edit: I'm only talking about young inexperienced Doms here.

[anonymouse]

Only based on talking to Doms at parties my extremly simplified model of Domery is that a true Doms start out their career being/feeling really really strange about sex, and having trouble conveying this without scaring subs/women off.

Wannabes have the oposite problem. Their biggest problem is rampant normalness and general cluelessness about what turns a sub on. It's more a an identity/subcluture thing than a craving.

Two things:

Firstly, 'Domery' has entered my vocabulary (alongside kinkery and other funny words)

Secondly, (aside from the 'true doms' which you forgot to acknowledge is a TM sign) ... um, it's so true I can't help but laugh

anonymouse