Approval of others, do you defend your lifestyle?

[gagged_Louise]

My husband and I are currently in marriage counseling. Of course my BDSM interests came up and the counselor clearly stated that my interest in that is considered a "mental disease" and even stated what the clinical term for it was. I can't remember the clinical term at the moment but will search later...

Maybe "algolagnia", is that it? It's a hoary old term dating back to old man Krafft-Ebing I think, meaning, literally "love of pain" and it covers both sadism and masochism

Hope your family life works out, Annie, and that you'll find the strength to do what feels right. I certainly wouldn't want to tell a marriage counselor (or a lawyer) about my masochist side.

[annie]

Maybe "algolagnia", is that it? It's a hoary old term dating back to old man Krafft-Ebing I think, meaning, literally "love of pain" and it covers both sadism and masochism

That isn't the term he used. I actually can't find it. (Or remember it well enough to find it may be the issue at hand!)

The only thing I have found so far is this, for what it's worth.