Quote Originally Posted by Cicily View Post
There is more to marriage than non-existent orgasms. (Isn't that why God created fingers, vibrators, and hand-held showerheads? )

I feel guilty because he is my friend and I have been with him for half of my life. He is a good guy, just not good for me.

He is not manipulative, just very dependent on me for his stability and happiness. (No one can make you happy but yourself. I know this, he doesn't.) I have never been a worrier. I am laid back, loyal, outgoing, determined, and nuturing. I always take care of everyone around me. I guess that is another reason for the guilt. I don't want to take care of him anymore.
I think you're my twin. I'm in the same boat - the vanilla sex is fine, but he's not a Dom, so when he tries to get kinky on me, it feels wrong. Besides, "kinky" is not my thing - submission is.

For now I'm utilizing the "submission outside of my marriage" option. And no, he doesn't know. I have a very satisfying, very intense, very happy long-distance D/s relationship. We're fortunate that we're able to spend a few days or a week together every few months, and in-between we stay in touch on a daily basis. He is the perfect Dom for me. And I'm grateful for Him.