Broken Promises-- Honorable?

[Tojo]

Honestly, from this statement here... I now question your honor as much as I would question his. This is a personal issue, just as several of your posts have been, and I fail to understand why you feel it necessary to continue to air your dirty laundry in a public format.

This also leads me to believe this is more then about money. Just a guess here that you are hurt and you are wanting to get even. But your dragging it across the forums won't do anything to change it. All you are trying to do is form "sides" and that is lacking in honor as well, IMO.

I'm sorry if you were hurt, but please don't continue to drag the laundry through the forums... If I wanted to deal with other's laundry I would clean my kids rooms!

I think even if minx's post had been about airing her 'dirty laundry' she has a right to do so. Should we all keep quiet about having our trust broken by someone, just because they're known to someone else?

Geez that'd be half the posts in the forum!

Good post Whippett.

[Alex Bragi]

I, too, believe minx is entitled to air her problems and ask for advice on this forum. Some people may not agree that she should have posted this particular thread, and they're entitled to that too.

Many dominants take pride in being 'honorable' and are fond of talking about this quality in themselves. The fact that some people here believe they may know the identity of said dominant is immaterial. The facts are that no specific or personal details have been revealed and, as it's already been stated, minx has been rather vague about the facts.

While this obviously isn't a problem exclusive to bdsmers, a dominant will often hold a submissive under a certain amount of duress, so it is a rather interesting topic to discuss regardless of minx's unfortunate situation.

(And, it's too bad Marco the naked dancer isn't still around, he could have given us a full page legal essay on this. *ss*)

[sidhewolf]

I think even if minx's post had been about airing her 'dirty laundry' she has a right to do so. Should we all keep quiet about having our trust broken by someone, just because they're known to someone else?

Geez that'd be half the posts in the forum!

Good post Whippett.

Agreed!

Where do you go when you have a problem? To Those you Respect and Trust and wish input from. Many PPL go to Groups They are a part of for this reason.

When there is a breakup of a Relationship and Both Parties are in the same Groups, have the same Friends etc, online or RT or both, are They supposed to "throw out the baby with the bath water" so to speak?

Is it not possible to remain a Friend to Each of Them? Listen to Each of Them? Answer Each of Them? Care for Each of Them? Each Person is still who They are. All that has changed is Their Relationhship status. And yeah, most times there's an aftermath. Why is there such a propensity for picking sides? Why is that even necessary? Why can't PPL just remain the same Friends They were before, and just Learn to care for Each person seperately?

I think in part this is because when there is a breakup it scares PPL, as in *This could be me*. It brings the Truth and Fragilty of Relationship(s) Home. Noone is Guaranteed one more minute with Those They Love and care for, no more than any of Us are Guaranteed one more breath. Things Change, and PPL can Grow in different directions, for whatever reason(s). It's many times not a pleasant process.

We should All be able to speak After, just as Before, in the places We go, with the PPL We talk with. And receive the same Respect, Care, and Advice. Without being slapped, put down, or Judged, for Needing that.

Yeah, it might be "dirty laundry" sometimes. But that's the process of cleaning it up.

Respectfully~SidheWolf