Blue Monday- when I met my wife, I had a number of female friends. I said that to her & before things got serious told her she'd have to accept it.

It was her choice to marry a man who has friends of the opposite sex, she hasn't regretted it yet. She says I need to have my own life- whether with my mates, riding my bike or talking to women. I say the same to her.

I believe a big part of the reason we've got a marriage that many people envy is because we don't cling. We're both independant people who come together & share a life.

Yes she knows I spend hours chatting & on the phone to other women. She knows women 'have the hots for me' as she puts it in r/l.

No she doesn't know that two of them call me their Master. If she did, she'd think I was nuts!

We've discussed the bondage D/s thing- it's never going to happen.

Her philosophy is 'You can look but not touch'. She would not want to know what I say to other people, male or female. She knows I'm a ladies man, or used to be.

That's what I call love. That's why I'll do without a r/l D/s lifestyle while she's alive.

The other thing is that I'm a counsellor/ally to people I see as worthwhile. I often tell her things my girls go through, & talk to her about it.

I'm a very lucky man- while I may love another, I'm staying with my wife.

Tojo