In my mind, at least, I had to experience some of my desires so I visited a professional and made it clear ahead of time that there was no desire or need for sexual intercourse. Of course when you hire a pro that is understood ahead of time. I don't believe I am an adulterer.

If your spouse isn't in to BDSM no matter what - do you consider yourself an adulterer for having a real life experience with a partner? I know that most times there may be a sex act involved with this living out of your dreams but what I'm talking about is just experiencing some of your desires without having sex.

This may sound like a strange question but the subject came up in another thread I was reading and not to take focus away from that thread I thought I ask the question here.

How do others feel?