Quote Originally Posted by Tojo
When your own nearest & dearest doesn't trust you- they don't love you in my opinion.
Tojo
Tojo,
I can't argue with that statement by itself. However, IMO at least in regards to fetish life styles, trusting and understanding are two different and separate entities.

For instance, I have many female friends that I carry on email and phone conversations with. These ladies go back to even before I met my wife, more than 42 years ago. All of them I dated at one time or another. Keep in mind I have been married for over 40 years and she does trust me and always has with these or any new ladies I come in contact with in my everyday life. She used to be just a little bit jealous and maybe still has a slight trace of that but she knows in here heart that I only look or talk, I never touch, so to speak. She does trust me. And yes, we do discuss every conversation or contact I have with these ladies, whether by accident or on purpose.

Relating to this forum, understanding this type of on line talk or involvement would never be possible for her. After 40 years I think you come to know your spouse as well as you know yourself. I know this is something she could never comprehend, or even want to for that matter.

So again IMO, trust and understanding are two separate issues. I believe it is great if you can have someone to share all aspects of your life with and I did for over 40 years and believe I still do except for these fetishes I have left creep into my life just very recently. If a choice ever had to be made, which I don't think it will, I'd be gone from this site in a heart beat. If I ever believed in my heart that I was an adulterer, I would have to see my minister immediately. I would need a clear conscience to look my wife in the face again. So as one post mentioned, I guess Christianity is a big part of my concern.