Biggest problem in BDSM or Lifestyle

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[B]Once one find their place in this lifestyle/ BDSM wheither it is as a Dominant or a submissive, the biggest problem to me is finding a partner and a lasting relationship with-in it. Am I correct?

welcome to the real world.....everyone has this same problem. Play partners, and from your previous posts that is what i believe you are looking for....just don't fall out of the sky....ready made....exactly made for you.

Have you ever tried to just be yourself and get to know people. Take and interest in what is going on in peoples heads?...You know..just talk??...no angles.......no agenda.......and not just "do you think you want to play"

Just a passing comment...but "hey baby wanna fuck"...never goes over very well.....

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/BAlso I find that once in the lifestyle, people look at you kinda like your a weirdo lol. They tend to shy away from you or avoid you, I think or is it just me?

I live in a vanilla world........and am who i am. Try blending a bit. I dont try and shock people. ..."i got a pair of hand cuffs ...wanna see".

The Third problem I find is in finding a partner that your looking for in your own area who wants and likes and needs all you can supply them and that includes all the kinks, desires, wants and needs and hard and soft limits or is that just me?

no..its not easy. I feel for you.....you not alone in this quest.

My biggest suggestion.......try a different approach.


PS....i like the avatar much better without the flowers......