question about online sub

[FrozenGrapes]

I actually heard from her today. She was very apologetic and said she had to go out of town with family and only today got to a computer to email me. I understand this as it has happened before but she mentioned and i do feel an appropriate punishment is nessesary for making me wait and wonder and not letting me know what is going on. regardless of the circumstances. Like i said before she has been pushing for me ot dicipline more and take more control and i feel now is a good time to step up and take the reigns.... any thoughts? doms or subs veiwpoint on this very welcome.... thanks all!!!

[snowflake]

I actually heard from her today. She was very apologetic and said she had to go out of town with family and only today got to a computer to email me. I understand this as it has happened before but she mentioned and i do feel an appropriate punishment is necessary for making me wait and wonder and not letting me know what is going on. regardless of the circumstances. Like i said before she has been pushing for me ot dicipline more and take more control and i feel now is a good time to step up and take the reigns.... any thoughts? doms or subs veiwpoint on this very welcome.... thanks all!!!

hmmm had to go out of town WITH family.. for a week or better.. Gee my thought on that is t was a planned things and she should have informed you and was disrespectful not to.. Like you don' matter if you sit and stew.. That is away a Dom may punish but as a sub i would never dare do that to my Master or my Dom...

It only takes a few seconds to Type..

"i have to to go our of town for a few days and will get back to you when i return..

Hope you understand

{subs name}"

To me this would be cause for an action.. Forgetfulness gets me hung upside down with a mask on in a play session on line and my breath controlled and asked what happens if i forget to allow you to breath again??

Not a good feeling i assure you..

I think she needs to write an essay on whom she is and whom is in control and about the meaning of respect and why it should be never forgotten...

or lines say like:

i shall never go away and not inform my Dom first that i am leaving as it is disrespectful.

or

i shall never disrespect my Dom in this manner or any other again.

By hand then make her take pics of it or web cam it or scan it to her comp.. and email it to you....

i would still make it so she has to fill that form out so you know what her hard limits are and push one of those buttons in a session.. Maybe then she shall learn disrespect is intolerable..

Just my thoughts as a sub..

hugs
snow

[orchidsoul]

hmmm had to go out of town WITH family.. for a week or better.. Gee my thought on that is t was a planned things and she should have informed you and was disrespectful not to.. Like you don' matter if you sit and stew.. That is away a Dom may punish but as a sub i would never dare do that to my Master or my Dom...

absolutely disrespectful, but I think it's also disrespectful for a dom to use it as punishment. I think regardless of whom it is (whether d/s or not) it's rather rude.

Online is so tricky to begin with- communication can be inherently limited, and when anyone heads out for more than 2-3 days, it seems appropriate to let them know.

Aside from stewing and questioning the relationship, there can be genuine concern over someone's well being. I know I'd get concerned if I didn't hear from someone near and dear to me for almost two weeks.

I like your idea of an essay. It seems appropriate. Anything else, she's liable to enjoy the punishment, particularly if she's been craving attention, hasn't had play for a couple weeks, etc.

Good luck Frozengrapes! I hope it works out ok whatever your punishment ends up being.

[snowflake]

absolutely disrespectful, but I think it's also disrespectful for a dom to use it as punishment. I think regardless of whom it is (whether d/s or not) it's rather rude.

Online is so tricky to begin with- communication can be inherently limited, and when anyone heads out for more than 2-3 days, it seems appropriate to let them know.

Aside from stewing and questioning the relationship, there can be genuine concern over someone's well being. I know I'd get concerned if I didn't hear from someone near and dear to me for almost two weeks.

I like your idea of an essay. It seems appropriate. Anything else, she's liable to enjoy the punishment, particularly if she's been craving attention, hasn't had play for a couple weeks, etc.

Good luck Frozengrapes! I hope it works out ok whatever your punishment ends up being.

And i agree with you .. even with a Dom i didn't say it was right i just said i could see one do it...

As for stewing .. i meant what you said worried something is wrong..

Glad we both see it that way hun

hugs
snow