How to ask

[subcurious63]

Honestly, i am far from an expert, as i have very little real time experience, but i think that you should tell him exactly what you just told us. Explain to him that you love that he tells you when you are doing well, but that you wish that you had more structure, and maybe you could talk about some areas in your life, that you might like for him to take control over. You could also share with him that you would like to know some more ways that you could please him. While you cannot just say "hey, dominate me more", you can say that you are comfortable with the rules that are already established, and would love to have some new ones that you could follow, or maybe some rituals that could be added. Maybe things like a bedtime ritual, or a dinner ritual, or even a coming home from work ritual (Him, you, or both).

i do hope that you found some of this helpful. i wish you all the best.

[badlyguidedlittlemis]

While you cannot just say "hey, dominate me more", you can say that you are comfortable with the rules that are already established, and would love to have some new ones that you could follow, or maybe some rituals that could be added. Maybe things like a bedtime ritual, or a dinner ritual, or even a coming home from work ritual (Him, you, or both).

I agree with the above, and was pretty much what I wanted to say. In my personal experience, my relationship with my dominant started with a few simple 'rules' which naturally developed into more rules with rituals as our relationship grew.

I even began doing an action which I enjoyed doing for him every night, and now it is my bedtime ritual which he loves as much as me.

I hope your conversations go well, let us all know what happens if you can.