badlyguidedlittlemis - Marriage to me is not something you should stay in just because you've vowed in front of people and god.
Agreed it need not be a til death do us part kinda thing but you are, in my opinion, not giving due weight to a solemn commitment. If you take the same argument to other contracts we will have breach of contract willy nilly, which of course happens and courts impose penalties to discourage it. Divorce should be an option of the last resort not a quick fix.

damyanti - Or does the dominant get to do what they want? What about sub?
I think it would depend on the limits and agreement (contract). Limits need not only be for sexual activities.

badlyguidedlittlemis - No, he can not do anything which I've said no to, as I can't do anything he has said no to. Just because he is dominant does not mean he can veto my feelings.
Ds is not an equal rights arrangement. The submissive has (within the mutually agreed limits and agreement) ceded authority to the Dom. By what authority does the sub tell the Dom what he/she can and cannot do. True he cannot veto your feelings but he can veto your actions. That is what power and authority means. If you do not like it then you don't hand over authority and we return to the basic question of what submission means.

badlyguidedlittlemis - I completely disagree, vanilla or d/s, cheating (as defined by the couples relationship) is cheating.
As I said in my other post, this depends on the agreement.

badlyguidedlittlemis - but our core relationship, the love, the trust and what keeps us loving one another is no different to my parents, who are not d/s
I get your point but it's not quite valid. BDSM is consensual, you did not choose your parents and did not agree to be spanked by them.

badlyguidedlittlemis - This is something we both agreed on.
Precisely - the upfront agreement between the partners.

badlyguidedlittlemis - Let the world do what it wants and don't think about it.
What a nice thought but we have to live in the world and must take into consideration the freedoms and restrictions it imposes.