in dire straits, would welcome comments

[DowntownAmber]

There is something to be said for a Master that pushes limits and guides a sub through places she didn't think she could go. "Playing on the edge" can certainly be rewarding to both parties.

However, if you don't feel like you're growing at all through these games he plays, if your desire to submit and please is fading in into questioning and resentment, it very well may be time to step back. You know yourself better than any of us do, and this is a very personal thing: if he is asking for things that are just not you, then you owe it to the both of you to bring that up.

[DiablosLittleOne]

There is something to be said for a Master that pushes limits and guides a sub through places she didn't think she could go. "Playing on the edge" can certainly be rewarding to both parties.

However, if you don't feel like you're growing at all through these games he plays, if your desire to submit and please is fading in into questioning and resentment, it very well may be time to step back. You know yourself better than any of us do, and this is a very personal thing: if he is asking for things that are just not you, then you owe it to the both of you to bring that up.

I couldn't have put it any better than Amber, but would like to add a few things. If you have set limits that he cannot respect than it may be time to move on. All of us have such limits and although it isn't necessarily bad to push the limits sometimes it can be damaging to constantly push the boundaries of what we consider to be safe inside our minds.

Talk to him openly, explaining to him what this is doing to you. If he isn't willing to work with you I'd assume it's a sign that you should move on. After all what we seek in our Masters is one to care for us and help us grow, not one to stunt our growth in submission.