Analyze this?

[Veridical]

These kind of questions are very deep psychological questions that, if you're not ready to realize all aspects of your own mentality or personality, you won't know the answer for.

In some cases; The answer is just there, you always understood it because you have a deep understanding of who you are. In other cases, the answer is not so forth coming, and in fact may confuse and scare some people to know that they do not know the answer. In either case, knowing the answer won't end world hunger, nor will it make a difference in the political debate, but it may make you a better person for knowing, and you will feel more at ease with your urges to want to be spanked or tied up. It's one of those deep, soul searching questions in which you usually aren't the same once you realize what the real answer is. Submitting just because it turns you on is not always the case, and in fact most submissives do not participate in these acts just cause it gets them off. It's something far deeper into the psyche than simple orgasm. It's a very defining characteristic that anyone who knows what they're looking for can see in someone very easily.


Disclaimer; This is all my opinion, and not really based on science or anything. I've just over analyzed these kind of things a bit too much, and this is the end result. So please take it with a grain of salt.

[blythe spirit]

So please take it with a grain of salt.

But what if you're not suppose have salt? lol


Disclaimer: I just couldn't resist.

[lucy]

But what if you're not suppose have salt? lol


Disclaimer: I just couldn't resist.

rofl. What i really like about your post is that you actually posted it. I only think of such replies but never dare to post them. Call me sissy.

And thank you very much, iPet, rachel and Hime.

For me, and this is pretty new, I do understand why I seek these interactions, and no, Lucy, the answer is not pretty and it's not erotic, but there you go.

Yes, that's what i'm a bit afraid of and why think i'm not up for the answer yet.

[leah06]

Yes, that's what i'm a bit afraid of and why think i'm not up for the answer yet.

Lucy, I really understand this and I'm not pushing anyone. For me, I think that not confronting certain experiences in my past gave them more power over me, rather than giving me power over them. I knew they were there, it wasn't a repressed memory or anything, but I kept them locked up and tried to keep them from influencing me by simple will. I don't think it worked. It was very hard for me to articulate what happened to anyone else because I felt like the words would almost explode as I said them. But they didn't explode and neither did I, and it was easier and not harder to say those words to myself the next time. In fact, the experiences turned out to have been pretty terrifying at the time but, in retrospect, sad but not tragic, and somewhat understandable in context. And I feel that I am better able to situate them in the context of my life and myself.

This might be true generally of facing our past and how it influences us. In terms of bdsm, I felt like a total freak for years for even having these desires at all, and thinking that they might be rooted in something in my deep dark past just made me feel freaky AND like one sick puppy. For myself, I will say that I have been so pleasantly surprised to find that acknowledging my desires, and facing where they come from, has lifted some of that weight and has enabled me to feel more accepting of my own past and present.

It has also, by the way, allowed me to fly like an arrow shot from a bow to the heart of what I have been looking for.

I only put this here as my own experience. I'm not necessarily suggesting it for other people.

[QuietMaster]

In fact, the experiences turned out to have been pretty terrifying at the time but, in retrospect, sad but not tragic, and somewhat understandable in context. And I feel that I am better able to situate them in the context of my life and myself.

For myself, I will say that I have been so pleasantly surprised to find that acknowledging my desires, and facing where they come from, has lifted some of that weight and has enabled me to feel more accepting of my own past and present.

It has also, by the way, allowed me to fly like an arrow shot from a bow to the heart of what I have been looking for.

I only put this here as my own experience. I'm not necessarily suggesting it for other people.

The mind/brain is the most powerful machine that exist on earth. The simple sayings: -- "Mind over matter." -- is indeed a profound statement.

A person can indeed be very scared with what she feels deep within herself as compared to what she is expected to feel and do by "societal norm".

Hence, the dichotomy of knowledge, understanding and interacting in society and what one really desires.

To a greater extent, when one indeed realises and develops her affinity to her deep dark inner sensualities and the core of herself, she regains her power which has been wrested from her by "societal expectations".

The female/submissive is then released from the strictures imposed on her to soar like an eagle and be circumspect with her actions.

[Veridical]

But what if you're not suppose have salt? lol


Disclaimer: I just couldn't resist.

Lawl.
No salt for you then!