It's a little hard to explain how I function. *lol* I don't negotiate a scene in a relationship because we've already gone over hard limits/soft limits/etc. in the beginning, but I do throw out some dos and don'ts if I'm playing casually in a dungeon setting because they don't know me. Negotiating in and of itself doesn't necessarily make it "not" submission. It's just a whole different mind set for me. Casual play is like a business transaction of sorts. I want the pleasure of being hit, and they want the pleasure of hitting me. Yes, you can hit me, but don't use this or do that. Even if they think I'm doing what they want, it's only because I want it and has nothing to do with pleasing them. I want it *my* way. Kinda sounds like a Burger King commercial! *lol* A lot of people won't admit to that. It sounds harsh, but what kind of submission can you actually expect in that setting? None!

In a relationship, I don't have to know exactly what he will be doing to me before he ties me up because I trust him. I will endure things simply because it pleases him to do them irregardless of whether or not I enjoy it because I want to make him happy. Making him happy makes me happy.