Sorry you have had a few rough days. Drama what can I say about that other than life really would be boring with out some degree of it. Not only that, but it is those experiences that we learn and grow from. It is what forms us into the person we are and it is usually the tougher more difficult times that actually teach us to better our selves in some way.

Now, about a sub being agressive and domly....
I know it is not proper to answer a question with a question, but why is it that subs, even amoung those in the BDSM lifestyle are considered weak ?

Sure, there are head cases that are subs because they think they deserve 'abuse' And just as many D's out there who look for those types just because they want to abuse.

However I have found when you find a true sub, who has worked through the issues...they are well aware that it is not true abuse, they just happen to enjoy things society may deem as abuse. They dont loose thier back bone, if any thing they find it.
They are much stronger than they are given credit for.

It sounds as if your Lisa is one of those, if she is not allowing her self to be abused. Then it should not be surprising at all that she would become defensive over you her master whom she probably loves as much as her self.