Like a lot of the contributors here, my sub fantasies go back to early childhood. Long before I knew about sex as anything but the way grownups made babies, I got a special kind of excitement from stories where people were tied up and tortured or made to work as slaves. At school I was teased and laughed at and hated it, but I still made up hotly exciting daydreams in which I was stripped naked in the playground and made to do humiliating things.

Eventually I added fantasies of doing those things myself to my enemies, but for a long time it was still more fun to imagine being the victim or slave myself. When I finally managed to persuade some playmates to play the games I wanted, it was me that first got tied up and undressed.

When I actually started doing it for real, I found I prefered to be in charge - if only because nobody else seemed to understand what I wanted done to me. But though that set me on the road to being mostly Dom, the sub side is still there and still (with the right person and setting) as exciting as ever.