Quote Originally Posted by danman7 View Post
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I can't do much to control her workplace, so I've got to focus on what I can control in the home. I have instructed her to begin using phrases around the kids like "I have to ask your father" or "That's your father's decision" to both take the pressure off of her and reinforce the subservient relationship to me.

Thanks in advance.
Your problem is definitly a common one, our lives demand many roles of us, and it can be hard to change in a moment. Right now I cannot add anything useful to the many answers you have already recieved, I just wanted to point out that hiding stuff like this from the kids is next to impossible. They learned to 'read' your face as babies, and they do not forget.