Have an issue, would like advice

[thir]

Each day over dinner, she must tell you how she did, whether all tasks were successfully accomplished or not, in double entendre if the kids are present, with foreknowledge of the consequences and rewards to be administered as soon as the kids are excused to play, do homework, or off to bed, as the case may be.

The double entendre method never works! They know something else is happening, but can get confused on various levels as to what it is.

I would say keep all of this on a strictly private basis, or talk to them about it.

[openyoureyes]

The double entendre method never works! They know something else is happening, but can get confused on various levels as to what it is.

I would say keep all of this on a strictly private basis, or talk to them about it.

Well, he could do something as simple as ask her how her day was, and she could have various replies mean different things...I doubt him asking "How was your day", and her responding "It was fine" would raise any red flags. Most teenagers ignore what their parents are saying anyway.

[Jennifer Williams]

Most teenagers ignore what their parents are saying anyway.

Oh, no. No, they are listening every single moment. They just want you to think they are ignoring you.

I don't have any kids; I just remember being a teenager quite well. Your kids always know a lot more than you think they do, and you probably know less about them than you think, too. Just a caution.

I've often thought about if we had children how we would handle our relationship around them. I think I would just be straight with them up front, because that was how I was raised and I was always grateful to my mother for just telling me the plain truth about things. But I don't really know; I'm just speculating.

[leo9]

I've often thought about if we had children how we would handle our relationship around them. I think I would just be straight with them up front, because that was how I was raised and I was always grateful to my mother for just telling me the plain truth about things. But I don't really know; I'm just speculating.

When he was 5 ours found out that I was hurting his mom, which was the bit we'd tried to keep from him. (She had started dressing to show off her bruises, because she felt proud of them and it amused her to freak the girls in the office, but neither of us noticed that it meant the kid seeing them too.) So I had to have a serious talk and explain that some people enjoy hurting or getting hurt as part of making love, but not everyone feels that way and nobody has to do it if they don't want to.

With the ex-slave I tried to be more discreet, mainly because the stuff I was doing to her was so extreme that even a hint of it would have scared a 6yo badly. This meant sending him to play with friends down the road a lot when she was around, which in hindsight wasn't a good idea.

What happened after that meant he learned far more about my affairs than I would have chosen to tell him, and the up side of that is, now that he's 16 I'm sure he has a pretty good idea what we're into without anything said.

I'd imagine he doesn't want to know about it any more than any teenager wants to know about his parents' sex life. But judging by the sort of websites he was visiting before he learned to erase his online history (I'd never heard of BDSM anime games before he led me to them ) he at least understands the attraction of bondage and SM, so I'm not worried that he's going to panic if he comes across a cane we forgot to put away.

[thir]

Well, he could do something as simple as ask her how her day was, and she could have various replies mean different things...I doubt him asking "How was your day", and her responding "It was fine" would raise any red flags. Most teenagers ignore what their parents are saying anyway.

Well, mine doesn't..he hears everything, including what he shouldn't or wasn't meant to! ;-)