14 pages read..can't find the answer....Retraining?

[flying66]

As for being bratty or playful or spirited and what not and he or she not liking it etc, there are two things you can do...eaither adapt your behavior accordingly to the new partner, or make the determination that your not compatible with them and move on.

A D/s relationship like any other is a two way street.

That's exactly it, D/s is like any other non-D/s relationship... you both have to agree you are compatible and decide on how flexible you can be to each other's lieks and dislikes in and out of the bedroom.

Like wyldrose said, there are things to iron out a bit in the beginning... like my last Dom really loved orgasm control, and I ALWAYS had to ask permission to cum, during sex, he'd ALWAYS tell me to cum just before he did so with my new Dom, I did the same thing... I with-held my orgasm because I hadn't been given permission... we ended up having sex for a really long time for a while, with me actually looking up at the clock every now and again, silently saying "omg! are we STILL going?? when is he going to FINISH?? I'm getting sore and kinda need to go pee!!!"

We talked about it after and it turned out that he often with holds orgasming until his partner cums X.x yeah so... sex is great now lol didn't start that way, but it's great now! which goes to show that talking is VERY important XD

[spazzakazz]

my last Dom really loved orgasm control, and I ALWAYS had to ask permission to cum, during sex, he'd ALWAYS tell me to cum just before he did so with my new Dom, I did the same thing... I with-held my orgasm because I hadn't been given permission... we ended up having sex for a really long time for a while, with me actually looking up at the clock every now and again, silently saying "omg! are we STILL going?? when is he going to FINISH?? I'm getting sore and kinda need to go pee!!!"

We talked about it after and it turned out that he often with holds orgasming until his partner cums X.x yeah so... sex is great now lol didn't start that way, but it's great now! which goes to show that talking is VERY important XD

Lol....that's so cute Communication is key