Another thread on marriage : Is marriage obsolete?

[thir]

Obsolete? Not in my opinion. Marriage is as important and meaningful to me as it is to my husband. That is not to say that another couple places the same importance upon marriage, for it is only relevant to those who consider it meaningful and binding. Not everyone places such importance upon a marriage contract - for that is what it is...a contract. Marriage takes work and commitment, by both partners. I'm not saying that relationships without the "contract" don't take work and commitment, but having the contract binds the commitment by law.

It occurs to me when I read this that things have indeed changed - a lot. Marriage has gone from being a nessecity for survival for most people, to being an option.

Some men discussing this have said: But if women can earn their own living, what need do they have for us?
And the answer was: Being with you because we want to, not because we have to!

[13'sbadkitty]

It occurs to me when I read this that things have indeed changed - a lot. Marriage has gone from being a nessecity for survival for most people, to being an option.

Some men discussing this have said: But if women can earn their own living, what need do they have for us?
And the answer was: Being with you because we want to, not because we have to!

I like that very much! I am with my husband not to pay the bills I could have rented a room out in my house to cover. I am married because I have never slept well my entire life and woke up to everything and everyone. I sleep through the night with him in my bed.

My brother who is gay and got married in CA in 2008. He very much wants to live in a world where he and his husband are recognized the same as my husband and I are no matter what state.

While I agree that the over all approach to marriage and divorce may need to be revisited...I am happy and cozy in my marriage. It is right where I belong.

[thir]

I like that very much! I am with my husband not to pay the bills I could have rented a room out in my house to cover. I am married because I have never slept well my entire life and woke up to everything and everyone. I sleep through the night with him in my bed.

My brother who is gay and got married in CA in 2008. He very much wants to live in a world where he and his husband are recognized the same as my husband and I are no matter what state.

While I agree that the over all approach to marriage and divorce may need to be revisited...I am happy and cozy in my marriage. It is right where I belong.

I like to hear about things that work :-)

I was thinking maybe it is isn't as much approaches to marriage and divorce that needs to be revisited, as the conditions marriages have to work under?