Red flags for those new to the lifestyle

[Kuve {Sett}]

Lucy: The fact that a lot of subs, male and female, might ignore the advice in no way means the advice itself is bad, if it helps even a few fledgling subs avoid getting hurt it was worth the posting. It must never be forgotten that we are all individuals and that there is no one, single "correct" way to play, without open and honest two way communication, which is what the flags you cite would tend to eliminate, there is no way for a sub to ensure there own needs are met which will usually end the relationship anyway.

[lucy]

Lucy: The fact that a lot of subs, male and female, might ignore the advice in no way means the advice itself is bad, if it helps even a few fledgling subs avoid getting hurt it was worth the posting.

Yup, right. That's exactly why I said that too.

... there is no one, single "correct" way to play, without open and honest two way communication ...

There is not one correct way with open and honest two way communication either, there are as many ways as there are relationships. But that's semantics.

...there is no way for a sub to ensure there own needs are met which will usually end the relationship anyway.

It will? Really? It would be easy to paste links in here to a couple hundred threads on all different sites, including this, where you can read the tales of subs doing exactly this: Stay in a relationship in which their needs aren't met, or in which communication wasn't key but rather inexistent.

But still, if this list helps only one individual to stay out of harms way it was worth posting it. That much I completely agree with.