BDSM clubs - submitting to (or dominating) 'strangers'

[ar1]

Some dom-sub relationships form out of existing 'vanilla' relationships, so it can work even if you have or look for a relationship with someone who is open to the idea.

I know - I used to be there, and it was so easy back then, exploring BDSM together and both being new to it all. Since then it's not been so easy! You may well be onto something with the forums dom/sub section bit. Have you seen any other forums besides this one you think might be useful to me? Thank you.

[CaptainZeus]

I know - I used to be there, and it was so easy back then, exploring BDSM together and both being new to it all. Since then it's not been so easy! You may well be onto something with the forums dom/sub section bit. Have you seen any other forums besides this one you think might be useful to me? Thank you.

I'll PM you those sites instead. I guess it got nuked by a mod while I slept.

I think I posted my ideas on topping/domming in another thread somewhere on this board, but the basic jist of my idea was that it's a matter of control. Bottoms let their partners take control, and can take it back if they get uncomfortable. Subs give their partners control and won't take it back so easily as a bottom.