BDSM clubs - submitting to (or dominating) 'strangers'

[CaptainZeus]

From what I've read, ami, I've seen people use forums with sections for doms and subs to find each other. Never used it myself, so I can't comment on the safety (before you do, very much make sure you read up on safety and follow all the precautions), but I imagine it's an effective way to find like-minded people to form more of a relationship and emotional power trade with compared to a brief session at the local dungeon now and then. Some dom-sub relationships form out of existing 'vanilla' relationships, so it can work even if you have or look for a relationship with someone who is open to the idea.

[ar1]

Some dom-sub relationships form out of existing 'vanilla' relationships, so it can work even if you have or look for a relationship with someone who is open to the idea.

I know - I used to be there, and it was so easy back then, exploring BDSM together and both being new to it all. Since then it's not been so easy! You may well be onto something with the forums dom/sub section bit. Have you seen any other forums besides this one you think might be useful to me? Thank you.

[CaptainZeus]

I know - I used to be there, and it was so easy back then, exploring BDSM together and both being new to it all. Since then it's not been so easy! You may well be onto something with the forums dom/sub section bit. Have you seen any other forums besides this one you think might be useful to me? Thank you.

I'll PM you those sites instead. I guess it got nuked by a mod while I slept.

I think I posted my ideas on topping/domming in another thread somewhere on this board, but the basic jist of my idea was that it's a matter of control. Bottoms let their partners take control, and can take it back if they get uncomfortable. Subs give their partners control and won't take it back so easily as a bottom.