How to be safe?

[Ozme52]

Depends on your relationship requirements. Just be open and communicative. Answers you don't "like" do not necessitate a change, merely introspection as to whether or not they're reasonable or consistant with your requirements as an interim step, or if more than you want, explorable. Make not snap decisions but ponder first. Don't throw any proverbial babies out with the bathwater.

PS. Subtlety wasn't my intention. I thought I was being very obvious!

[ar1]

Just be open and communicative.

Best answer there is. I guess when it comes down to it, if I'm "too" open and communicative, and end up saying things that he might not want to hear (like I can't just see someone for sex, it has to be more than that even if it's not a proper relationship) then I'm probably better off without anyway. And I overanalyse everything way too much - for all I know he could be having exactly the same worries about me as I am about him. Although that might be 90% wishful thinking...