why is it wrong for a submissive to masturbate??

[Xmaster1]

Ok I respect denuseri but got to disagree. Also, "for all intensive purposes"? (shudder) I am not the grammar police but it is: "For all intents and purposes."
Now, I agree if the dom does not allow a submissive to masturbate, ever, out side of a scene then ok they are morons.
But, if my sub masturbates without asking for my permission to play with my toy, then she is gonna be in trouble.
Control does not always mean denial but you have to deny access sometimes or the request for permission loses its meaning.

[thir]

Ok I respect denuseri but got to disagree. Also, "for all intensive purposes"? (shudder) I am not the grammar police but it is: "For all intents and purposes."

Apparently you are.
Isn't there something called 'freedom of speech' in your system? ;-)

Now, I agree if the dom does not allow a submissive to masturbate, ever, out side of a scene then ok they are morons.

I don't think so. It is entirely depending on what works for them.

But, if my sub masturbates without asking for my permission to play with my toy, then she is gonna be in trouble.

Fair enough, since that works for you :-)

Control does not always mean denial but you have to deny access sometimes or the request for permission loses its meaning.

Control does not in itself equal denial - just deciding how things are done.

[Xmaster1]

Apparently you are.
Isn't there something called 'freedom of speech' in your system? ;-)

Of course there is, I love free speech and I was making an exception to my normal rule. "For all intensive purposes" is a complete corruption caused by people writing what they think they heard.

I don't think so. It is entirely depending on what works for them.
Sorry I tend to keep it short and simple, what I mean is everyone needs some alone time just for themselves to be selfish and just please themselves. Anyone that restricts that 100% is a moron. IM(not so)HO of course, feel free to excercise your free speech.

Fair enough, since that works for you :-)



Control does not in itself equal denial - just deciding how things are done.
Yep that is what I said.

Yeah mine doesn't look as good as yours.

[Ozme52]

Also, "for all intensive purposes"? (shudder) I am not the grammar police but it is: "For all intents and purposes."

Welcome to the world of denuseri's amusing malaprops.

Norm Crosby (I believe it was him) made a career out of them.

[davina_]

Welcome to the world of denuseri's amusing malaprops.

Norm Crosby (I believe it was him) made a career out of them.

I believe he did, but I always liked Archie Bunker's malapropos best

And I can see both sides. Sometimes the rules and constraints of a scene don't fair as well outside the situation but then again, what meaning does the scene have if one only needs wait until it's over. I think there has to be some latitude but basically, a general understanding of what's expected.