My new sub is a married woman!

[fantazmaster]

Ah yes, Badwolfe,I am afraid you are seeing that paradox of many lifestyle relationships,whereby the Sub is actually dominating things from the bottom.In this instance we have her in control of information by telling her husband a lie.Plus it is a bit of a control element for her,that she approached you with starting this relationship with her to begin with.Better watch your step,as this one sounds like an accomplished manipulator,one who likes nothing more than playing both ends against the middle,as we appear to see,based on the info you have shared here.

[MstrJake]

In the Stories Archive, the Master would "know" about the slaves lame attempt at deception and punish her, and maybe or maybe not incorporate the husband into some part of the story. So what if you demanded of the slave a full and honest accounting of what is really going on, what she really wants, what she has said that wasn't true to her Master and her husband. And then assigned an appropriate punishment or task, depending on the nature of the relationship. And what if you demanded that she tell her husband the same things. And then what if you demanded that she have her husband answer the same questions. I don't have any interest in Domming a man, but if that is what it takes to control a slave, I might at least consider it. Just an idea; dumping her is a good choice too.

[thir]

In the Stories Archive, the Master would "know" about the slaves lame attempt at deception and punish her, and maybe or maybe not incorporate the husband into some part of the story. So what if you demanded of the slave a full and honest accounting of what is really going on, what she really wants, what she has said that wasn't true to her Master and her husband. And then assigned an appropriate punishment or task, depending on the nature of the relationship. And what if you demanded that she tell her husband the same things. And then what if you demanded that she have her husband answer the same questions. I don't have any interest in Domming a man, but if that is what it takes to control a slave, I might at least consider it. Just an idea; dumping her is a good choice too.

Problem is, what stops her from continuing lying? It would all be a face-saving fantasy of control.

It is hard to advice others, but my thoughts would be either let her go, trust and honesty is neccesary in any relationship.
But if not, talk all three together, and see if you can figure it out.

[scarlet_85]

Ah yes, Badwolfe,I am afraid you are seeing that paradox of many lifestyle relationships,whereby the Sub is actually dominating things from the bottom.In this instance we have her in control of information by telling her husband a lie.Plus it is a bit of a control element for her,that she approached you with starting this relationship with her to begin with.Better watch your step,as this one sounds like an accomplished manipulator,one who likes nothing more than playing both ends against the middle,as we appear to see,based on the info you have shared here.

Honestly, I could not agree with this more! Well said and kudos! It seems like a vicious circle of playing dirty and honestly sounds like it may not stop. I now question the validity of anything she may be saying. If, for two months, she allowed a game of manipulation before saying anything, how many other things have been said that carry deceit? It seems to me that maybe you just need to cut ties before it completely gets out if hand. I would have stopped it as soon as the husband withdrew consent. Mainly for respect and for morals. BDSM requires honesty and respect along with communication and trust. I feel she has betrayed all of that. I hope it all turns out for the best... Before something stupid happens.